Mindful Parenting

Mindful Parenting Habits Fosters Stability For Kids

Due to the unequal power differential, mindful parenting skills are needed for each stage of growth to support the child’s fundamental needs. Otherwise, when a child feels powerless (whenever one of their basic needs feels threatened), usually a meltdown and tears are inevitable. Sometimes this is damaging to their ability to trust. No matter what stage of growth,  empowering them by facilitating a safe, kind environment, gives them constructive options and values. None of us is explicitly taught these things. Nor are we warned of how traumatic a parent’s over-reacting can be for a child. Establishing mindfully kind habits as an adult sets a precedence for your child with grace, making it easier to be aware and manage a child’s fundamental needs that align with their phase of growth.

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Dr. Laura Markham, Ph.D. is a psychologist and founder of Aha! Parenting, as well as a parenting expert for Psychology Today, The Natural Parent Magazine, and Mothering.com among others. She is also a published author of two books:

  1. Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How To Stop Yelling And Start Connecting
  2. Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings: How To Stop The Fighting And Raise Friends For Life

The punishment and compliance system (that most of us grew up with) is robbing parents of crucial connection, and she offers alternative forms of communication to get results that are easier and safer for everyone. Dr. Laura’s relationship-based parenting has been getting positive results for hundreds of families across the US and Canada, and has garnered media attention from diverse publications from the Wall Street Journal to Men’s Health.

Growth Stages Overview

Child’s Mindful Parenting Needs Per Phase

Babies are struggling to handle over stimulation, learn how to eat, sleep, and adjust to their rapidly growing body and brain development. The foremost aspect of this phase that makes the most difference is how the child is cherished. Not only being held as much as possible during waking hours, but the excitement level of those holding the baby builds the innate trust that they are safe.

Kind Mindful Parenting Core Values

Modeling Mindful Kindness

A child’s primary function is to explore and discover who they are. Playing a supportive role to their discovery means being mindful of their growth phase and changing needs. Remaining receptive, mindfully kind in all your affairs, and careful not to personalize your child’s anger, because they are doing their best, and it’s enough. The more kind your child’s environment, the freer they are to develop a love of learning, cultivating their art form, and pursuing skill sets that make them happy.

Award Integrity + Accountability

Personally modeling integrity and accountability, shows your child that you are also doing your best. And sometimes, when our best isn’t enough, it doesn’t mean we failed. There are still other opportunities to own a mistake, apologize, and make amends. Then when your child makes a mistake, then show them it’s still possible to have great integrity and do the right thing. Tell them how proud and appreciative you are that they care about doing the right thing.

Offer Boundaries + Solutions

Over-reactive parenting leads children to more intense negative emotions and poor behavior. In research conducted across 361 families, modeling self regulation, confidence, and firm boundaries helped kids to know that there are always workable solutions for both parties. This helps them to work through things constructively as opposed to over-reacting as a habit.

Encourage Creativity

Empowering your child’s creativity by allowing them to get messy, and experiment is important for engaging their innovative thinking skills. Emphasizing playful process over productivity helps affirm the value of the journey rather than productivity. A deeply flawed premise that most us suffer from: “The more you do, the more you’re worth.” You can make a difference in keeping your child’s inherent value separate from any production process.

Mindful Parenting Habits

Here’s a brief overview with how to practice being mindfully kind with your children given their stage of development.

Kids are very perceptive, and if your affirmations are constantly non-specific, they eventually question themselves, because they feel short on concrete examples of their value.  Your specific and timely affirmations make a huge difference in the way your child views themselves and how they step into their power. When they exhibit outstanding behavior, it’s important to acknowledge that before the end of the day is over. Slow down and fully express why you appreciate their choices and actions to be kind, brave, or not retaliate because it could cause more danger. Tell them exactly why that’s the most intelligent thing anyone can do in that scenario.

Benefits of Specific Affirmations

  • Enhanced Self Esteem
  • Reinforcement Encourages More Good Behavior
  • Increased Understanding For Confusing Situations

Specific Affirmations


Mindfully Kind Voice Tones

Mindful Parenting

Because children are easily overwhelmed, angry voice tones are damaging. Always approach them with calm respectful tones, with empathy for their limited view of things, especially when setting limits. As much as possible give them respectful explanations of why you need their cooperation. This makes it easier for them to transition. “Hey, I know you like chasing this one kid around, but they are getting tired and need a break, can we swing or find other kids to play with?”

Benefits of Kind Voice Tones

  • Understanding Behavior Instead Of Demanding Compliance
  • Keeps Your Ego Minimized
  • Enhances Connection Capacity For Both You & Your Child

Our kids are easily confused and overwhelmed by their own emotions, growing pains, and energy fluctuations. They don’t know when they are about to crash from exhaustion. Structure is good for them and us. The reassurance that a parent is protectively in charge, and helping the child understand and master the routine builds their sense of personal security. As they grow up, different growth stages will require modification, but as long as your child understands the core ‘why’ as being for their benefit, there will be fewer power struggles.

Benefits of Structured Routines

  • Enhanced Ability For Giving Kids Options Within Segments Of The Day
  • More Inspirational Connection, Less Power Struggle Disconnect
  • Mindfully Kind Day-To-Day Process That Maximize’s Child Wellbeing

Structured Routines Enhance Security


Prevent Over-Scheduling


We know it takes mindful courage and innovation to resist the impulses of scheduling too much for ourselves and our children. Decide as a family what makes up a ‘Can’t Be Bothered Day.’ Perhaps fundamental ground rules apply such as: No scheduled appointments, no electronics, and a 24 hour peace treaty for any family members who have unresolved issues. Maybe a picnic, hammock cuddling, or making a paper mache of a rare animal together are allowable activities.

Benefits of Down Time

  • Their Unstructured Play Time May Unlock Your Own
  • Witnessing An Unfolding Identity Is An Underrated Phenomena
  • Emotionally Supporting Their Discovery Process Is Healing For Your Inner Child

Families need a variety of rituals, from annual camping trips to everyone eating together for one meal a day. Connection rituals are sometimes seasonally based and something everyone looks forward to. Such as a harvest festival in the fall and making hot cider together. Family meetings with established etiquette on practicing constructive responses make a difference by including everyone and allowing them to be heard.

Benefits of Family Ritual

  • Interconnection Boosting For All
  • Fun To Look Forward To
  • Inclusionary To All Roles In The Family & Reinforces Inclusive Attitudes

Develop Family Rituals

Lori Petro is an educator, mother and advocate for conscious parenting. She founded the TEACH-through-love.com model and offers professional support services for parents, caregivers, counselors, childcare providers, and teachers. Her background in early childhood education coupled with certification in parent instruction helps her to synthesize a voice for her personal childhood of feeling misunderstood. She posts weekly Q & A videos to cover prevalent parenting issues and you can follow her Youtube channel here.
The power of your influence does not come from the power of your will, nor the ferocity of your punishments, but the strength of your relationship.Lori Petro
According to experts, most of us are paying for therapy based upon childhood injuries, and are playing out the same shame, guilt, compliance discipline systems that hurt us in the first place.

Ready for Mindful Parenting Changes? Being Mindfully Kind Can Permanently Upgrade Life

Healthy life habits gain momentum quickly because the reward loop of endorphins in the brain yields many positive emotions due to real time return on effort. Starting is easy, and continued effort is a rewarding journey.

Saint Badass, mindful living

Saint Badass

Hear the backstory of how Roy, a life-sentence-serving inmate met Doug, a retired university professor, and started the journey of testing mindful kindness under the severest circumstances. The history of abuse, retaliation and transcendence without physically leaving a maximum security prison is breath taking.

  • True Story
  • Maximum Security Prison Culture Experience
  • The Power Of Mindful Kindness Under Severe Duress

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How Love Wins

Kindness is underestimated by many cultures, but mixed with certain qualities, it’s extremely powerful. In the research based work of How Love Wins, Doug Carnine, PhD explains how fusing mindful kindness into everyday living has a profound upgrading effect to all you do, and how you feel.

  • How Sustainable Giving Works
  • Weaken Unkind Habits While Strengthening Kind Habits
  • Improve Your Capacity For Connection With Others

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If you’re already filling in the blanks of any of the above concepts, you’re a champion.


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