How Love Wins:
Fusing Mindfulness & Kindness

Understanding How Mindful Kindness Enhances Life

Its an enormous undertaking to collect experimental, evolutionary, historical, and biological research findings on mindful kindness. It’s another feat to build a case for its multiplying effect on one’s life. Equally enormous, is testing its strength under extreme conditions such as life in prison and finding that the commitment to practice continues under severe duress.

How Love Wins, Mindful Kindness

Reviews of How Love Wins

“This accessible guide to changing one’s life through “kindfulness” is an invaluable road map for readers whose lives have been affected by toxic mindsets.”Booklife Reviews
“In this simple but powerful guide, Carnine leads the reader through a 12-step process of transformation, opening a toolbox of skills and techniques that anyone can use to live more fully in the moment and be more kind to themselves and others. A lay Buddhist minister who has worked with hospice patients and prisoners, Carnine reassures us that everyone is capable of building a mindfully kind life — and making it stick.”Geri Larkin
Founding Teacher, Still Point Zen Buddhist Temple
and author Stumbling Toward Enlightenment
“This powerful book takes any of us from a life of “me” to “we,” from isolation to connection and love. In a world where kindness is so needed yet so little understood, How Love Wins is a must-read.”Duana Welch, PhD
author of Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do


Mindful Kindness

Full spectrum explanation for how mindful kindness is a powerful state of being that offers a proactive way of living that leads to sustainable happiness. This account is based on current available research and carefully looks at the evolution of kindness through world religions.


  • How Damaging Negative Mind Wandering Can Be
  • Practical Ways To Include Mindfulness With Everyday Avtivities
  • How Powerful Mindful Kindness Is As A Deliberate Habit

Improving foundational thinking with mindfulness and kindness makes it possible to be kinder to ourselves, our communities, and our world. This means we can stop wasting energy on over-reacting, and spend more time proactively setting up our world in a kindful way.

Concepts Discussed

  • Self Kindfulness
  • Your Kindfulness Reach
  • Enhancing Personal Relationships Through The Principles Of Mindful Kindness

Defining A New Vision Through Kindfulness


A Kindful Future


It’s our hope that people will see being kindful as normal, and a proactive therapy for replacing fear based thinking. This means less unkind habits of anger and accusations, and more kindful habits of receptivity and constructive communication towards fairness and inclusiveness for all.

Progression Of Growth

  • Less Energy Over-Reacting = More Energy Enjoying Each Other
  • How Kindfulness Makes Life Easier
  • How Kindfulness Shifts Decisions For Maximum Benefit For All
Kindfulness enhances capacity for understanding, connection, and stable intimacy.

An Emotional Vacation Via Perspective Enhancement

Reading How Love Wins is an emotional vacation you don’t have to return from. This research does something profoundly simple, it goes in the opposite direction of modern society’s extreme materialism and individualism. Historically, kindness has been progressing as a religious concept over 1000’s of years and it’s interesting to see how it’s importance is being recognized in scholarly fields ranging from evolutionary biology to experimental psychology. But beyond the impressive collection of research, are practical ways to make mindful kindness a sustainable part of daily life.

emotional vacation

“This moment is my entire life. Where do I want to direct my attention—to the past, future, cravings, and undesirables? Returning our attention to the present moment sets the stage for contentment, relaxation, and quiet joy.”
– Doug Carnine, How Love Wins

Book Foundation

The early chapters build a foundation for a broader view of our mental landscape. This gives us an interesting metric to better understand how kind we are or aren’t to ourselves, as well as others. New concepts such as ‘negative mind wandering’ helps us to grasp and identify damaging thoughts and emotions.

  • Introduction: Let Kindness and Mindfulness Lead You to Happiness

    Introduction to how mindfulness, kindness, and happiness are linked. Observing how mindful and kind you are to friends, yourself, and how far that kindness reaches.

  • Chapter One: Let Kindness & Mindfulness Lead You To Happiness

    Negative mind wandering, which ranges from mild to severe, often causes unkindness, and subsequent unhappiness. Don’t let mind wandering and unkindness bring you unhappiness.

  • Chapter Two: Make An Informed Vow Based On Your Foundational Habits

    How your mental state can change under severe circumstances despite the physical world staying the same.

Cravings and undesirable events such as chronic injuries that lead to depression can be your teacher when they activate your detective role. Then you put energy into finding possible ways to change your physical world. Doug Carnine, How Love Wins

A Story That Makes You Feel Good

These principles will permeate your subconscious and help you feel different nearly immediately. With a minor amount of practice, the results will build momentum over time as you improve your habits. If you are highly adaptive a once over reading will be enough. If you do better with an interactive approach with a variety of scenarios and questions, we recommend our eCourse. It’s based on the book and takes you through a minor history of human development, as well as the latest research discoveries about building kind habits and weakening unkind habits. Either way, the review of this quality of information represents a solid mental upgrade for your future. More joy, success, and quality relationships all based on currently available research.

A Researched Approach To
The Importance Of Mindful Kindness

Negative Mind Wandering Makes Us Crazy
Weakening Unkind Habits While Strengthening Kind Ones
Worldwide Mindfulness & Kindness Research
How Blending Mindful Kindness Gives You A Serious Edge
All The Above Combined = Mentality Upgrade You Can't Unsee
How Love Wins, Mindful Kindness

Ways To Hear The Story



Audiobook of the original version is available through Amazon and other audiobook services.

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